My Biggest Wedding Tip? Make It About You Two!

If there’s one thing I say over and over again to couples planning their wedding, it’s this:
Your wedding should be about you two.
Not about impressing guests. Not about ticking off a million traditions. Not about making sure every single person is completely content (because spoiler alert - that’s impossible).

One of the biggest stressors during wedding planning is the pressure to please everyone else.
You want your parents to be happy - especially if they’ve kindly helped pay for the day. You want your friends to have fun, your guests to feel welcome and you’re trying not to offend that one distant aunty by putting her too far from the bridal table.

Before you know it, you're knee-deep in decisions based on what other people might think or expect. And suddenly, the day doesn’t really feel like yours anymore.

Here’s the truth: you can’t please everyone. Ever.
So why spend the most exciting (and likely most expensive) day of your life trying?

When you really think about it - a wedding is about two people. That’s it.
It’s about a commitment between you and the person you love. So why are we letting ourselves spiral into stress about whether Uncle Jeremy is going to complain about the canapés or whether the seating chart will offend someone you haven’t spoken to since 2007?

Now, I get it - it’s easier said than done. Of course you care about your family and friends and naturally you want them to enjoy themselves. But trying to make everyone happy? That’s a fast track to exhaustion and decision paralysis.

Instead - focus on making yourselves happy. Pick the things that light you up. Choose details that reflect who you are, not who you think you’re supposed to be. This is your one day where you get to unapologetically do things your way - so why not lean into that?

If that means walking down the aisle to a string quartet version of The Thong Song (yes that really happened and yes it was magical) - then live your life! 

If you want to ditch the traditional sit-down dinner and host a backyard BBQ under fairy lights - amazing.

If you want to skip speeches, cut the cake or wear a mini instead of floor length - do it.

Book this, skip that. Add a little, take a little away. Just keep tweaking until it feels like you.

Because that’s what people will remember - the energy of a wedding that genuinely reflected the couple at the heart of it.

So, to every couple out there getting lost in logistics, comparisons and people-pleasing:
Take a deep breath.
Come back to the two of you.
And remember, the only people who need to love your wedding… are you.